Body: | Myths about the submission of the wife to her husband
"Submission is based upon ancient, old fashioned, outmoded cultural.
This is modern age. You are out dated. How dare you talk that way about
women. Get with it, this is the 21st century!"
Answer: There are 8 reasons why women must submit regardless of culture:
(1) Creation order: Man was created first, woman second: 1 Timothy 2:13
(2) Creation origin: Man and all creation was created by God directly out
of dust, whereas woman was created through the man's rib.: Genesis 2:22
(3) Man named woman: Adam named the animals and Eve, and was to rule over
them. Genesis 2:19; 1:28; 2:23
(4) Delegation principle: The prohibition to not eat of the tree of
knowledge of good and evil, was made directly by God to Adam. Adam, in turn
relayed what God said to Eve. Genesis 2:16-18
(5) Woman sinned first: 1 Timothy 2:14; Genesis 3:1
(6) God rebuked Adam first after they ate the forbidden fruit showing his
headship: Genesis 3:9
(7) Paul pointed Christians to the Mosaic Law that was 1500 earlier and a
different culture: 1 Cor.14:34
(8) Peter pointed Christians to Sarah, 2000 years earlier and a very
different culture: 1 Pet. 3:5-6.
"Paul was bachelor, a woman hater and was angry at women because he
was ugly and no girl wanted to marry him." (You reject the Bible itself,
since Paul wrote 1/2 the New Testament. Paul's answer to these critics:
Gal.1:11-12; I Cor.14:37)
"Submission was only required under Old Testament curse, but removed
by Christ." (False, since N.T. letters written to the church command
submission! N.T. submission because of Adam & Eve, 1 Tim.2:12, 13-14.
Related curse alive and well, 1 Tim.2:15; Cf.Gen.3:16.)
"It is the husbands duty to make his wife submit to him." (His only
duty is to unconditionally love his wife with no control over the wife's
submission. It is the wife's sole duty to submit herself to her husband as
scripture says.)
"A wife would enjoy submitting if the husband was perfect."
(Submitting to a perfect husband is still an unpleasant curse! Wife's
submission is a curse, Gen.3:16. Promise will enjoy? Idea becomes sinful
accusation against husband. "Since I don't enjoy submitting, he must be
doing it wrong.")
"Bible submission, if followed literally, would force the wife to
obey the husband even when he orders her to sin against God." Acts 5:28-29
When a husband treat his wife in a sinful way, she can quote Acts
5:28-29 "Obey God rather than man", and she doesn't have to submit to him
under such circumstances. (the passage only applies when the husband asks
the wife to commit sin, not if he is sinning against her. Examples: Husband
asks wife to lie, steal, wife-swap, orgies, prostitution)
"The wife doesn't have to submit to her husband during those times
when he treats her in a cruel, thoughtless, unloving or un-Christ-like way.
(1 Peter 2:18-19 + 3:1)
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Wives commanded to submit to un-Christ-like husbands:
A. The wife must submit to her abusive husband "in the same way" that a slave submits to an abusive master: 1 Peter 2:18 + 3:1
B. No husband is sinless and if a wife need not obey her husband because he sins, it effectively nullifies the command to submit.
C. Masters are to be just, fair, Col.4:1. But if not, submission is still required: 1 Peter 2:18
Wives can raise their voice and yell at their sinful husbands: 1
Peter 3:4 (Wives who address their husbands above a "quiet, respectful,
submissive, whisper", at any time.)
"Submission means the husband treats his wife like a slave." (The
husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. The wife is to
submit, in the same way a slave submits to a master and Christ submitted to
God)
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The Bible commands wives to submit like a slave, the husband is commanded to love as an equal:
Wives' submission compared to slaves, 1 Pet.2:18; 3:1
Kind of submission specified, Eph.5:22, 23-24.
"Husband to submit as much as wife, Eph.5:21." (Would effectively
eliminate all submissive roles: Child/Parent; Slave/ Master;
Christian/Elder.)
Submission of a woman hinders her potential as an individual. (See
Prov 31)
"Bible submission means a wife must endure physical beatings by her
husband." (The man is sinning and she should call the police and/or flee
for safety until the danger is gone. But she must return and remain in
submission to him, since only for his adultery may she divorce him.)
The Bible says the wife is the manager of the house so she has top
authority inside the house. (The wife may be the manager of the house, but
the husband is the manager of the wife. The husband has authority over
everything including, if he so chose to, the arrangement of dishes in the
cupboards, the shelf where the milk is placed in the fridge, which laundry
detergent to buy, paint colour on the walls, what will be hung on the
walls, the colour of the wife's shoes etc.)
Myth that a woman has special needs in marriage that the man does not
Myth that a woman has special needs in marriage that the man does not:
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"Wives have own personal 'needs' " (Contrast 1 Tim 6:8)
"Need confidant." Often rationalization for slander. Matt.18:15, 16, specifies.
"Need own space, time, money." Rationalization for refusal to submit. Eph.5:24 specifies.
"Need to get away." Rationalization for desertion. I Cor.7:5 specifies.
"Need my own identify." Imagine sentiment from Church; from servant.
"Need to find out who I am." Whoever you were, to be "put off." Now
different, Eph.4:22-24.
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