Body: | Husband! Are you Taking your Wife for granted???
In the early hours of man's existence, God said, "It is not good that the
man should be alone. I will make for him an helpmeet for him" Genesis 2:18.
The beautiful garden would not have been a paradise without Eve. What a
lonely existence man would have had without woman. Man has need for
companionship, affection, empathy, procreation. It is not good that man
should be alone. Naturally, this applies to woman, too.
Home is one of the sweetest and fondest words enshrined in human
affections. Woman's greatest joy can come in making a happy home for her
husband and children. It is very difficult to overestimate the worth of a
good woman. Solomon recognized the virtues of a good woman and man's
inability to get along without them. He said, "Who can find a virtuous
woman? For her price is far above rubies, the heart of her husband doth
safely trust in her. She will do him good, and not evil, all the days of
her life. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the
elders of the land" Proverbs 31:10-31.
In Proverbs we also find such statements as "he who findeth a wife, findeth
a good thing and obtaineth favor of the Lord" Proverbs 18:22. And "house
and riches are the inheritance of fathers, and a prudent wife is from the
Lord" Proverbs 19:14. We should not cease in the giving of thanks to the
Lord if we have found a prudent wife. How fortunate we are if we have
mutual love and companionship in our homes. If we do not have such a home,
may God help us to achieve one.
The Bible says love is as strong as death. Jealousy is cruel as the grave.
Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it. (Solomon
8:6-7). Solomon also said live joyfully with thy wife, whom thou lovest,
all the days of the life of thy vanity (Ecclesiastes 9:9). If the home is
not a happy place, someone has failed. Peter gave us instructions on how to
live together harmoniously. He said, "Husbands, dwell with them (your
wives) according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife as unto the
weaker vessel and as being heirs together of the grace of live, that your
prayers be not hindered" II Peter 3:7. She is not weaker in character and
intellect, but she is weaker physically and man must understand her needs
and limitations. He must also be aware of her ability to help him. He must
also use his abilities in helping her. Wise men show an interest when their
wives speak up, and weigh their wisdom, for many times their wisdom
out-weighs that of their mates. Sometimes we rob ourselves of the happiness
our heavenly father intended for us because we have not learned to enjoy
the companionship of our Godly mates.
Pitiful is the man or woman who exploits his mate and reveals secrets that
should be kept between themselves. It is unbecoming and certainly not
Christ like to downgrade the opposite sex in story telling and off-color
jokes. We are God's creation. Each with a specific purpose and work. We're
not in competition, and the Christian woman is not seeking a false
liberation, but is happy and fulfilled in the role that God gave her. Many
of our frustrations are mental as well as physical ills, brought upon us by
a lack of love and companionship in the home. Our greatest joy should come
to us through our working together as husband and wife, and praying
together with common interests and common goals. God has given us laws for
our well-being, for God knows much better than we the things that are good
for us and the things that make us happy (Matthew 6:8; Ephesians 5:25).
Although you may deeply appreciate your wife, it can mean so much to the
both of you if you will take the time to let her know it. Tell her how you
feel and show her in a thousand little ways. It can mean so much. It is
unfair and unchristian to take her for granted. Married people owe each
other more than just a home, food and clothing. Your time, your attention
and your interests are also extremely important in maintaining a happy
relationship. Why not set aside a night each week for just the two of you
to be together, away from family, friends and responsibilities. Go out for
dinner or, if finances are a problem, just for a walk. Leave all your other
responsibilities at home and don't even allow them to be mentioned. Believe
it or not, the world will still be turning when you get back, and the
happiness that such times will bring to both of you will be well worth the
effort.
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