The insubordination of Queen Vashti to her husband cost her the crown:

In a graphic fulfillment of Prob 12:4, Vashti disgraced her husband and gave up being her husband's crown. "An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones. " Proverbs 12:4

"King Ahasuerus commanded Queen Vashti to display her beauty in royal appearl but she refused." ... "Queen Vashti has wronged not only the king but also all the princes and all the peoples who are in all the provinces of King Ahasuerus. "For the queen's conduct will become known to all the women causing them to look with contempt on their husbands by saying, 'King Ahasuerus commanded Queen Vashti to be brought in to his presence, but she did not come.' "This day the ladies of Persia and Media who have heard of the queen's conduct will speak in the same way to all the king's princes, and there will be plenty of contempt and anger." ... "When the king's edict which he will make is heard throughout all his kingdom, great as it is, then all women will give honor to their husbands, great and small." ... "So he sent letters ... that every man should be the master in his own house" Esther 1

From Esther, then we see that women who are out of submission: "look with contempt on their husbands" and the ideal is that "all women will give honor to their husbands" and that "every man should be the master in his own house".

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Steve Rudd

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