What Matters
1 Corinthians 7:19
We are hesitant to boast that we have a "favorite passage." We
do not want to leave any impression that that one part of God's Word is more
important than something else decreed from the same source. The implication that
we go through the Bible and just focus on the texts we like is also a message we
do not want to send. So if we say anything about a "favorite passage," we feel
the need to qualify that and acknowledge our allegiance to all of God's Word.
That being said, I think we do have passages that we spend more time with,
perhaps that say something to us plainly that we need to hear; or passages we
like to use when talking to others about the Lord and His will.
I've never heard anybody say that First Corinthians Seven is there favorite
passage! This is the chapter where Paul responds to questions sent to him from
members of the church at Corinth. The chapter begins with this important
information: "Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me," and then Paul
gives his answers. One difficulty we may have with the passage is, we do not
have - in direct, specific revelation - their questions. As we read Paul's
answers we can draw some good conclusions about what troubled the Corinthians
about male-female relationships and marriage. But we are not given, in a precise
way, their questions.
There is another cause for this chapter not ordinarily winning the prize as a
"favorite passage." It has been subjected to all kinds of abuse, in the hands of
those who plead their case in the interests of multiple divorces and remarriages
- in spite of what the Lord plainly taught in Matt. 5:32 and 19:9. When a
passage is argued about routinely and made the object of offensive controversy
... well, we may just want to skip chapter seven!
We must not. It is an important part of the epistle, and what it teaches can be
useful and helpful today. Let me just say what I always say when I teach from
this chapter or refer to it: Nothing in this chapter changes what Jesus said
about marriage, divorce and remarriage in Matt. 5:32 and Matt. 19:9! I also like
to say this: Remarriage is not contemplated anywhere in this chapter, except in
one verse! That verse is 39, which concerns the remarriage of a widow.
I have not found anything in 1 Cor. 7 about a permitted remarriage after a
divorce! Paul is not telling us everything there is to say about marriage,
divorce and remarriage. He is responding to their questions in a time of
"present distress" (see verse 26). I know that verse 15 comes up all the time,
and the argument is made that the verse permits the abandoned mate to remarry. I
cannot find anything in verse 15 about a "right to remarry." The abandoned mate
is "not under bondage;" that is to say, not a slave to the deserter. But this
fact is not equal to "may remarry." Verse 11 teaches that when a marriage ends
that shouldn't, there are two options: remain unmarried, or be reconciled.
But here's what I started out to write about: WHAT MATTERS. There is one
statement, right in the middle of this paragraph that can be so profitable in
our study of all these things. I mean, there is a single, simple statement that
can be of great benefit to us in our study of the difficult parts of the chapter
and in our lives generally. I'm talking about the statement in verse 19: keeping
the commandments of God is what matters!
Whatever anybody wants to do with First Corinthians seven, or anything else the
Bible says about marriage, divorce and remarriage - if some theory, teaching or
argument comes in conflict with this, we can reject it once and for all! Keeping
the commandments of God is what matters.
Are you single (never married) and cannot find a partner for life? There may be
some difficulty with that, but keeping the commandments of God is what matters.
Are you married (a scriptural relationship), but there are pressures and
temptations to divorce without scriptural cause? "A wife is not to depart from
her husband ... And a husband is not to divorce his wife," (1 Cor. 7:10,11).
"That which God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." The marriage may
be unpleasant at times and challenging. But what matters is keeping the
commandments of God.
Are you divorced, and the Word of God demands that you remain unmarried (see
Matt. 19:9)? Let no one tell you that your situation is intolerable. Let no one
romance you away from the teachings of your Lord. Let no one lead you away with
promises of freedom, personal pleasure and worldly attraction (the devil is the
ultimately leader in this direction). What really matters? Keeping the
commandments of God.
In the context of verse 19 Paul teaches that conversion to Christ does not
require that you change everything, that you leave every relationship you are at
the time of your baptism. "Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is
nothing, but keeping the commandments of God is what matters. Let each one
remain in the same calling in which he was called. Were you called while a
slave? Do not be concerned about it; but if you can be made free, rather use it.
For he who is called in the Lord while a slave is the Lord's freedman. Likewise
he who is called while free is Christ's slave. You were bought at a price; do
not become slaves of men. Brethren, let each one remain with God in that state
in which he was called," (7:18-24). Not everything must be suddenly changed; not
every relationship must be given up. If you can keep the commandments of God,
you can stay in whatever situation you are in. But that's the test - that's what
matters: keeping the commandments of God. Some relationships are in direct
violation of the commandments of God!
How much money you make ... how far you get up the ladder of success ... how
ideal things are in your life here on earth ... WHAT REALLY MATTERS IF YOU ARE A
CHRISTIAN?? Keeping the commandments of God. "Blessed are those who do His
commandments, that they may have the right to the tree of life, and may enter
through the gates into the city," (Rev. 22:14). Amen?
By Warren E Berkley
From Expository Files 6.9; September 1999