Message, Methods & Maturity In Training Our Children
"Children, obey your parents in the Lord,
for this is right. 'Honor your father and mother," which is the first
commandment with promise: that it may be well with you and you may live long on
the earth.' And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring
them up in the training and admonition of the Lord." (Eph. 6:1-4).
This passage is from a letter the apostle Paul wrote to "the saints who are in
Ephesus," (1:1). He wanted the members of the church there to read this (see
Col. 4:16), and the aim was, that they might understand his "knowledge in the
mystery of Christ," (3:4). In the above text, he addresses children. It is
reasonable to believe, there were some young people in this church; they had
obeyed the gospel, but still remained at home under the authority of their
parents. It is also reasonable to assume, there were children in those families
at Ephesus who were not Christians yet, but had access to or heard this epistle
read. The apostle Paul was not indifferent to the spiritual education of
children. His attitude was not to leave them alone and assume their parents
would teach them. There can be no doubt father and mother have the primary duty
to instruct children (see above text). Yet Paul, in an inspired epistle,
addressed himself to children and he obviously wanted the church at Ephesus to
read this, or give this instruction to children. Based on this and other
instructions from God, parents and local churches ought to take responsibility
for the spiritual education of children.
Local churches are in the business of teaching truth - to the lost; to people in
the community, and certainly to everyone who walks in the door (whatever their
age). God has directed local churches to provide instruction from His Word (Eph.
4:15,16; Acts 13:1; 1 Tim. 3:2; 2 Tim. 2:24). Adults need this instruction, but
so do children. Christians who are members of the local church need this
instruction, but so do non-Christians who visit. The attitude should be - we are
committed to teaching God's Word to all who are present (see Acts 10:33). In
adult Bible classes, the aim should be to lead the students in understanding
what God's Word says. What should we do with the children who attend? We should
discharge the same responsibility, but in a manner and with methods appropriate
to their learning level.
Children's classes cannot just become baby-sitting services. That's poor use of
time and constitutes a failure to prepare these precious children for life and
death. The duty to teach the truth is not age-limited, not race-limited, not
sex-limited or limited in any other way as to recipients. Everybody needs to
hear the truth. Everybody needs to learn what the Bible says. (I heard of an
occasion where brethren installed a new front entrance door into the building.
As they completed the job, one brother suggested that they conclude with prayer.
In his prayer he said, "we pray that all who enter this doorway will find love
and hear the truth.")
I am a product of children's Bible classes. Though the primary influence and
instruction came from my parents, an important part of my biblical education was
received in children's Bible classes.
I sang about Zacchaeus, colored pages of the rainbow, and learned the books of
the Bible. I attended "Vacation Bible School" every summer, learned about the
dispensations of Bible history and learned the little song about the apostles.
When I was a little older, I read my lesson, used my Bible to fill in the
blanks, did my memory work and had all this checked by my parents before class.
I went to the map and pointed to Jerusalem; I answered questions, joined in
discussions, learned to study and pray and sing.
Some of the methods used in the 1950's may seem ineffective today, but a whole
generation learned the Bible in this "old fashioned" setting. I offer no
discouragement to anyone employing the modern methods of our day (audio-visuals
aids, technology, labs, etc.). We ought to use whatever legitimate methods we
find useful in our time. But we can use these good methods without any
suggestion that the 1950's model was frail or fruitless. I want to say something
about teaching methods.
A good computer system will not turn a poor preacher into a good one. An
expensive LCD Video Projector will not turn weak content into a powerful
message. A smooth running Bible lab program will not necessarily yield better
results than the 1950's model. Methods must never become our purpose, but remain
subservient to the purpose. The purpose is to teach the Bible. That cannot be
effectively done without the strong and primary influence of the home, and the
commitment of the local church to the right message.
Good educational methods never compensate for lack of parental support. In my
experience with "Sunday School" and "Vacation Bible School" in the 50's, there
was strong parental support and involvement. My primary Bible class room was my
home. And before I went to classes in the congregational setting, my parents
went over "the lesson" with me, requiring that I cite my memory verse. I do not
believe my case was the exception to the rule, at least with the church my
parents belonged to. The backbone of the 1950's model was strong parental
involvement. The message needs to be sent to parents, students and teachers
today: Though our educational methods are proven, the foundation must be in the
home.
Good educational methods never assure guaranteed results. Jesus was the perfect
teacher, but there were people in Capernaum and Nazareth who would not listen
and learn (Matt. 11:21-24; Mark 6:5). In the parable of the sower, the good seed
yielded the good harvest only in the hearts of the humble and teachable (Mark
4:20). In our excitement over our labs, computers and video projectors - let's
not forget that some will not learn; they do not have the humble desire to
learn; lack of effective method is not the problem. We ought to use the best
methods. This sad reality (of dull hearers) shouldn't discourage us from the
ambition to teach and teach well. But we do not enjoy any assurance of
guaranteed results.
Good educational methods never yield good results if content is absent. Without
biblical content, our good methods will not achieve the results we ought to
desire: instructing children in God's Word. Parents, elders and teachers need to
be aware of the danger of students becoming fascinated with the fun methods and
teaching tools, but without concentrating on content. All involved in the
spiritual education of children must be sober and discerning, developing the
skill, maturity and discernment to use good methods, but without compromising
the message. If we decide to update our approach and modernize our tools, let's
do that without changing or minimizing the message.
Like Paul, let us direct teaching to children; and may we do so on an
appropriate level, and with every good method we can bring to the task. But
without exalting our methods above our purpose.
By Warren E. Berkley
The Final Page
From Expository Files 8.12; December 2001